Human mindset is always a different kind of animal.
The mind is always an enemy when you have a inclination or a desire to get something.
For instance I had an early morning flight to Dubai.
The flight was scheduled at 4.45am, I was about to attend an important training session was all set made my presentations and everything was intact.
Hence had booked a Cab, and it was scheduled to arrive by 2am. About 1.45am I received a call Cabbie that the Cab got canceled and had to book another cab. Another neighbor who just got up was asking me if he could help me. I said no thanks I am gonna book a Cab, the neighbor casually told me pay the Can charge to me as he is also doing a Grab car service person. I felt like fair enough and hopped into the car.
Heavy rain started lashing and the visibility was almost very difficult. He stopped the car midway and told me the car stopped due to some problem.
I was cursing the Cab guy now it turns out to be my neighbor cursing him in my mind. Luckily he was able to get a cab for me, all set at the airport. Bang on time was able to reach the airport.
I was wishing good luck to my cab driver and neighbors.
Now my Aisle seat Business Class always amazing, now I was enjoying my flight.
The flight pilot made an announcement that due to some technical engine fault we are having some technical term about landing gear or something. Now my mind voice bloody Can driver why did he drop me on time , thankfully God was stopping me for this travel.
After a few mins the Pilot announced now its all good. Now my mind voice changed.
Thank God it's all Good.
Only the circumstances assumes whether what's allotted to us is good or bad.
Think everything awarded to us as Good you will see peace in your mind.
Regards
Vis
Tuesday, February 18, 2020
Sunday, February 16, 2020
Lesson from forest for Diplomacy
Whenever we have a dialogue with Superiors it's totally necessary for us to maintain some amount of diplomatic approach.
The more you are close the Seniors might feel that you are trying to butter them up, however the peers will believe that you were able to go up the ladder only through buttering up. On the other hand the Seniors might also feel bit insecured in case you are shrewd that their job might be taken.
A short story
In a forest the animals were having a meeting or discussion, we all know the King of the jungle is Lion and in the course of discussion Lion yawned, Elephant will saying what a bad smell.
Lion got bit offended and went to ask opinion enquired with elephant "is it from me". Elephant said point blant your mouth stinks. Lion got annoyed and removed his ministry.
Still Lion couldn't bear this insult, Sloth Bear was just witnessing that Lion had removed the ministry of Elephant and it was eyeing that post.
Lion called Sloth bear, Sloth bear was thinking it was going to confer him the ministry, first question was is my mouth stinking too much? Sloth bear in order to butter him, no way your highness your mouth is so refreshing smell, like cardamom, clove all good smells. Lion sensed the foul play and was shrewd to think how can it be? I am eating lot of meat and flesh how could it be? Are you trying to please me to get ministry position. Get out Lion yelled.
Lion called the Fox, hey foxy is my mouth smelly. The presence of mind of Fox is amazing, your highness I am having a blocked nose for the past 1week hence I cannot say it.
This is where shrewdness and diplomacy is at its best, in case you are stuck in between better to maintain a diplomatic approach.
However Call a spade a Spade in case you are able to fight strong.
Have nice day.
Regards
Vis
The more you are close the Seniors might feel that you are trying to butter them up, however the peers will believe that you were able to go up the ladder only through buttering up. On the other hand the Seniors might also feel bit insecured in case you are shrewd that their job might be taken.
A short story
In a forest the animals were having a meeting or discussion, we all know the King of the jungle is Lion and in the course of discussion Lion yawned, Elephant will saying what a bad smell.
Lion got bit offended and went to ask opinion enquired with elephant "is it from me". Elephant said point blant your mouth stinks. Lion got annoyed and removed his ministry.
Still Lion couldn't bear this insult, Sloth Bear was just witnessing that Lion had removed the ministry of Elephant and it was eyeing that post.
Lion called Sloth bear, Sloth bear was thinking it was going to confer him the ministry, first question was is my mouth stinking too much? Sloth bear in order to butter him, no way your highness your mouth is so refreshing smell, like cardamom, clove all good smells. Lion sensed the foul play and was shrewd to think how can it be? I am eating lot of meat and flesh how could it be? Are you trying to please me to get ministry position. Get out Lion yelled.
Lion called the Fox, hey foxy is my mouth smelly. The presence of mind of Fox is amazing, your highness I am having a blocked nose for the past 1week hence I cannot say it.
This is where shrewdness and diplomacy is at its best, in case you are stuck in between better to maintain a diplomatic approach.
However Call a spade a Spade in case you are able to fight strong.
Have nice day.
Regards
Vis
Lucky VS Unlucky
Why Some People Have All the Luck
By Professor Richard Wiseman, University of Hertfordshire
Why do some people get all the luck while others never get the breaks they deserve?
A psychologist says he has discovered the answer.
Ten years ago, I set out to examine luck. I wanted to know why some people are always in the right place at the right time, while others consistently experience ill fortune. I placed advertisements in national newspapers asking for people who felt consistently lucky or unlucky to contact me.
Hundreds of extraordinary men and women volunteered for my research and over the years, I have interviewed them, monitored their lives and had them take part in experiments.
The results reveal that although these people have almost no insight into the causes of their luck, their thoughts and behaviour are responsible for much of their good and bad fortune. Take the case of seemingly chance opportunities. Lucky people consistently encounter such opportunities, whereas unlucky people do not.
I carried out a simple experiment to discover whether this was due to differences in their ability to spot such opportunities. I gave both lucky and unlucky people a newspaper, and asked them to look through it and tell me how many photographs were inside. I had secretly placed a large message halfway through the newspaper saying: "Tell the experimenter you have seen this and win $50."
This message took up half of the page and was written in type that was more than two inches high. It was staring everyone straight in the face, but the unlucky people tended to miss it and the lucky people tended to spot it.
Unlucky people are generally more tense than lucky people, and this anxiety disrupts their ability to notice the unexpected.
As a result, they miss opportunities because they are too focused on looking for something else. They go to parties' intent on finding their perfect partner and so miss opportunities to make good friends. They look through newspapers determined to find certain types of job advertisements and miss other types of jobs.
Lucky people are more relaxed and open, and therefore see what is there rather than just what they are looking for. My research eventually revealed that lucky people generate good fortune via four principles. They are skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities, make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition, create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations, and adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good.
Towards the end of the work, I wondered whether these principles could be used to create good luck. I asked a group of volunteers to spend a month carrying out exercises designed to help them think and behave like a lucky person.
Dramatic results! These exercises helped them spot chance opportunities, listen to their intuition, expect to be lucky, and be more resilient to bad luck. One month later, the volunteers returned and described what had happened. The results were dramatic: 80% of people were now happier, more satisfied with their lives and, perhaps most important of all, luckier.
The lucky people had become even luckier and the unlucky had become lucky.
Finally, I had found the elusive "luck factor".
Here are Professor Wiseman's four top tips for becoming lucky:
1) Listen to your gut instincts - they are normally right
2) Be open to new experiences and breaking your normal routine
3) Spend a few moments each day remembering things that went well
4) Visualize yourself being lucky before an important meeting or telephone call.
Have a Lucky day and work for it.
The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems, but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect.
By Professor Richard Wiseman, University of Hertfordshire
Why do some people get all the luck while others never get the breaks they deserve?
A psychologist says he has discovered the answer.
Ten years ago, I set out to examine luck. I wanted to know why some people are always in the right place at the right time, while others consistently experience ill fortune. I placed advertisements in national newspapers asking for people who felt consistently lucky or unlucky to contact me.
Hundreds of extraordinary men and women volunteered for my research and over the years, I have interviewed them, monitored their lives and had them take part in experiments.
The results reveal that although these people have almost no insight into the causes of their luck, their thoughts and behaviour are responsible for much of their good and bad fortune. Take the case of seemingly chance opportunities. Lucky people consistently encounter such opportunities, whereas unlucky people do not.
I carried out a simple experiment to discover whether this was due to differences in their ability to spot such opportunities. I gave both lucky and unlucky people a newspaper, and asked them to look through it and tell me how many photographs were inside. I had secretly placed a large message halfway through the newspaper saying: "Tell the experimenter you have seen this and win $50."
This message took up half of the page and was written in type that was more than two inches high. It was staring everyone straight in the face, but the unlucky people tended to miss it and the lucky people tended to spot it.
Unlucky people are generally more tense than lucky people, and this anxiety disrupts their ability to notice the unexpected.
As a result, they miss opportunities because they are too focused on looking for something else. They go to parties' intent on finding their perfect partner and so miss opportunities to make good friends. They look through newspapers determined to find certain types of job advertisements and miss other types of jobs.
Lucky people are more relaxed and open, and therefore see what is there rather than just what they are looking for. My research eventually revealed that lucky people generate good fortune via four principles. They are skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities, make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition, create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations, and adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good.
Towards the end of the work, I wondered whether these principles could be used to create good luck. I asked a group of volunteers to spend a month carrying out exercises designed to help them think and behave like a lucky person.
Dramatic results! These exercises helped them spot chance opportunities, listen to their intuition, expect to be lucky, and be more resilient to bad luck. One month later, the volunteers returned and described what had happened. The results were dramatic: 80% of people were now happier, more satisfied with their lives and, perhaps most important of all, luckier.
The lucky people had become even luckier and the unlucky had become lucky.
Finally, I had found the elusive "luck factor".
Here are Professor Wiseman's four top tips for becoming lucky:
1) Listen to your gut instincts - they are normally right
2) Be open to new experiences and breaking your normal routine
3) Spend a few moments each day remembering things that went well
4) Visualize yourself being lucky before an important meeting or telephone call.
Have a Lucky day and work for it.
The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems, but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect.
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